Oscars Fashion 2015- What were they thinking!

As we continue with the Oscars 2015 round-up, I want to list the worst dressed, or what were they thinking segment!

Lady Gaga (Source: Invision)

Lady Gaga (Source: Invision)

We have to start this list with Lady Gaga, this was probably what we expected anyways. But this white Azzedine Alaia outfit with ridiculously large gaping sleeves and strange oversized gloves. I never get the creative theme that Lady Gaga tries to achieve.

Felicity Jones (Source: Invision)

Felicity Jones (Source: Invision)

Felicity Jones, star of Theory of Everything, was a huge disappointment in this Alexander McQueen dress. It was all wrong- the neckline looks uncomfortable, the fabric and skirt looks unflattering, it looks like a bridesmaid dress. Fail!

Marion Cotillard

Marion Cotillard (Source: Invision)

Maybe I don’t get high fashion, but this white polka dot Christian Dior Couture gown that Marion Cotillard wore was a mess! She has such an awesome shape, so why is she wearing this blanket! And what is the black price tag like thing on her back?

Lupita N'yongo (Source: Getty Images)

Lupita N’yongo (Source: Getty Images)

Last year’s fashion darling Lupita N’yongo underwhelmed in this 6000 pearls dress by Fransisco Costa as part of Calvin Klien Collection. I am sure it is high fashion, but the top part looked too busy! Huge disappointment!

Emma Stone (Source: Wireimage)

Emma Stone (Source: Wireimage)

Emma Stone wore this pale green embellished number by Elie Saab- the dress overwhelmed her in my opinion. Not a good fit for the fashion forward Emma!

Nicole Kidman (Source: Invision)

Nicole Kidman (Source: Invision)

Nicole Kidman wore a strapless shimmery dress with a red belt. The dress in itself looks like a disco ball, but add a red belt that looks like a ribbon from a gift store, and you have a disaster!

Gwyneth Paltrow (Source: Getty Images)

Gwyneth Paltrow (Source: Getty Images)

No this isn’t because of GOOP! Gwyneth Paltrow wore this pale pink dress by Ralph Lauren. This dress reminds me the episode in Friends, where Pheobe’s dress has a spill and she covers it with a large Christmas flower ornament. The shoulder flower seems random and out of place.

Jessica Chastain (Source: Invision)

Jessica Chastain (Source: Invision)

I love Jessica Chastain, and I love this shade of blue- so I was a bit sad to put this on my worst dressed. But this sleeveless number by Givenchy makes the slender Jessica look awkward and out of shape.

Naomi Watts (Source: Invision)

Naomi Watts (Source: Invision)

Naomi Watts, my style favorite, wore this rather casual looking dress by Armani Prive. It reminds me of the casual beach tunic with the bikini peeking through the sides. Not the right occasion!

So that rounds it off folks! Sound off your views! Au revoir red carpet season!

Oscars Fashion 2015- The winners!

We are already at the end of the fashion season-today is the day of the Oscars! Its time for beautiful gowns, incredible jewelry, and a lot of questions saying “who are you wearing?”. The E coverage of red carpet was more muted with questions on role and the Oscar experience, due to the protests against mani cam and the fashion questions.

The big trends for the day: strapless dresses and statement necklaces. No hugely different trends, but I felt like it was better than last year.

So without further ado, here are the Best dressed from the Oscars 2015!

Julianne Moore (Source: Univision)

Julianne Moore (Source: Univision)

One of my favorite looks for tonight was the woman who would most likely win best actress tonight- Julianne Moore. Julianne wore a white custom Chanel off shoulder gown- class and a winner all around! Loved the simple earrings and stylish bun- perfection!

Rosamund Pike (Source: Invision)

Rosamund Pike (Source: Invision)

Gone girl star Rosamund Pike looked spectacular in this red strapless Givenchy number. She was underwhelming me this red carpet, but she brought her A game for the main event of the season, and she looked sensational!

Reese Witherspoon (Source: Invision)

Reese Witherspoon (Source: Invision)

Another best actress nominee Reese Witherspoon looked fantastic in a white and black Tom Ford number. The dress fits her like a glove, and the simple hair was just what it needed. Excellent!

Margot Robbie (Source: Invision)

Margot Robbie (Source: Invision)

Margot Robbie looked sensational- firstly blonde is her color, the dark hair is just not her. She looked stunning in this black Saint Laurent dress, but what stole the show for me was her Van Cleef & Arpels necklace. I would give my arm and leg for this stunning masterpiece!

Jennifer Aniston (Source: Invision)

Jennifer Aniston (Source: Invision)

Jennifer Aniston was one of the surprising snubs this year- she looked incredible in this sparkled strapless Versace gown.

Anna Kendrick (Source: Invision)

Anna Kendrick (Source: Invision)

Anna Kendrick looked flawless in this pink sleeveless gown by Thakoon. The color was a welcome pop of color in the sea of white and black.

Dakota Johnson (Source: Invision)

Dakota Johnson (Source: Invision)

Star of the 50 Shades of Grey movie Dakota Johnson looked like a movie star in this gorgeous red Saint Laurent gown. I loved the dress, but she might need better Spanx!

Scarlett Johansson (Source: Invision)

Scarlett Johansson (Source: Invision)

New mom Scarlett Johansson looked stunning in this green sleeveless number by Atelier Versace- I am on the fence about the necklace, but the dress was sensational!

Jennifer Lopez (Source: Invision)

Jennifer Lopez (Source: Invision)

I was suprised to see Jennifer Lopez at Oscars- her outfit didn’t disappoint. She wore a sleeveless embellished Elie Saab gown, with a plunging neckline. This is exactly what you would expect from J Lo!

OK, so that was my list- let me know if you agree! Next up, what you were thinking segment…

Grammy 2015 Fashion

I have to start with saying I am obsessed with Stay With Me by Sam Smith. This year’s Grammy’s had some awesome songs- All of me, Stay with me, Shake it off, Dark horse, Sky full of stars- so many great songs. My only gripe with the show- artists should play their hit numbers, not try new numbers (or unpopular ones!)

Here is a round of the always unusual, and sometimes outrageous fashion….

Katy Perry (Source: Getty Images)

Katy Perry (Source: Getty Images)

The star of the moment, Katy Perry- fresh of her super bowl performance, looked incredible in this sparkly number by Zuhaid Murad, complimenting her lavender hair. Love her spunk, style and confidence!

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

Taylor Swift (Source: Getty Images)

Taylor Swift (Source: Getty Images)

Next up, my brother’s favorite Shake it off star (and Katy Perry’ frenemy!) Taylor Swift- Taylor wore this blue number by Elie Saab. I am impressed with Taylor’s style evolution- she is moving from her standard sparkly numbers to more edgy styles. Love it!

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

Beyonce (Source: Getty Images)

Beyonce (Source: Getty Images)

Next up, Grammy royalty- Beyonce! Winner and performer every year- she stuck to her trademark sheer style in this black number. Looks great, but nothing special!

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

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Rihanna (Source: Getty Images)

Now for the ridiculous number from Rihanna- she used to be edgy and now this is just crazy! This pink Giambattista Valli tulle gown is shapeless and tent-like. She could smuggle a person under that! Disappointed!

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

Gwen Stefani (Source: Getty Images)

Gwen Stefani (Source: Getty Images)

One of my teenage favorites Gwen Stefani was back on the red carpet, and how! She looked incredible in this pant suit number by Atelier Versace.

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

Meghan Trainor (Source: Getty Images)

Meghan Trainor (Source: Getty Images)

I was looking forward to seeing All about the bass star Meghan Trainor- but her outfit was a bit of a disappointment. This sheer number by Galia Lahav was a mess to me- it looked like her Spanx were showing under a sheer dress. Sorry Meghan, your songs rock, but the dress- not so much!

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

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Kim Kardashian (Source: Wireimages)

Kardashian clan star and wife of Kanye West looked like she was wearing her sparkly bathrobe to the red carpet in this sparkly number by Jean Paul Gautier. Not as high fashion as she imagines it to be…

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

Madonna (Source: Getty Images)

Madonna (Source: Getty Images)

Madonna continues in her mission to look young by dressing provocatively, and failing. In this burlesque inspired Givenchy number, she looked ridiculous. Grow up please- give us the chance to admire your music, not mock the ridiculous fashion!

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

So what do you think? Who were you obsessed with!

The New York Winter Experience!

I have lived in New York for 5 years- each New York winter is brutal on it’s own, especially for someone who grew up in the Indian summer. Then add the nor’easter and winter storms, which are peppered throughout the long cold winter.

When you move here, you notice people fall into familiar patterns of behavior when they hear about the storm. I was surprised when I was initiated to the process, but I can honestly say I am not a pro!

So I decided in the interest of society, I will write a short step by step instruction on surviving the East Coast winter storms (* Disclaimer: This is a funny, almost sarcastic survival guide, so don’t take it too seriously!*)

  • The Weather Updates: It always starts the same way- the weather channel shows us a complicated map with many colors, and there is a new name- Sandy, Juno, Irene. It becomes a breaking news/ storm alert- you see wind speeds, accumulation and the stress builds.
Exhibit A: Colorful scary map

Exhibit A: Colorful scary map

  • The stocking up game: The next thing you do is prepare for groceries- you have to make sure you are stocked up. This doesn’t just apply to things you actually need, you suddenly feel the world will lose all the good stuff you love, so you pile on things like ice cream, that cookie you know is loaded in sugar and haven’t eaten in 10 years, and Lays, the list goes on. You stand in line for an hour, but hey, a bag of Lays is totally worth the wait! Making my point on stocking for perceived essentials: this article (Daily Mail article: surge in lingerie sales) shows in New York the sales of lingerie was up 500%- apparently lingerie is what you need to keep warm in a blizzard- who knew!
Exhibit B: Empty Grocery Shelf

Exhibit B: Empty Grocery Shelf

  • Planning for cabin fever: When there is the calm before storm, you start planning for your “work from home” day- you pick your Netflix shows to catch up on. Then there is a panic- what if there is no power? So you keep charging your phone and laptop, you find books to read. For the single and ready to mingle, there is always Craigslist to find blizzard buddies (Article on Blizzard Buddies)!

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  • The social media overload: As the winter blizzard starts, you get ready for Facebook status update explosion I am guilty of that too!) and the snowy Instagram posts. It seems super cute for a while, until you get sick of it. Almost as sick of the pictures, as you would be of the storm itself!
Exhibit 3: The Instagram Explosion Expecations

Exhibit 4: The Instagram Explosion Expectations

  • Enjoying the snow: After monitoring the weather updates and tackling the cabin fever, there is finally some fun to look forward to- making snowman, throwing snowballs, skiing! So put on your coats, your hat, gloves, and boots, and get ready for some snow mania!
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Exhibit 5: A snow mountain at your disposal!

What’s in your blizzard survival kit? Share your thoughts below!

SAG awards 2015 Fashion!

So the second big award show is here- I was pleasantly surprised to see very different looks from the Golden Globes.

Sidebar: I missed Ryan and Giuliana- I was visibly cringing watching Maria interview, especially when she asked everyone to walk the mani-cam and they all turned it down! Awkward!

10 Notable Looks from the SAG awards:

Emma Stone

Emma Stone (Source: Getty Images)

Emma Stone always brings something different to red carpets, and this time is no different. This time around, she rocked this tuxedo styled Dior haute couture gown with the red lip for a pop of color- hitting the androgynous trend and wowing the red carpet audience!

Felicity Johnson

Felicity Jones (Source: Getty Images)

Felicity Jones, who stars in the highly acclaimed movie Theory of Everything  looked incredible in this Balenciaga gown.

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Sofia Vergara (Source: Getty Images)

Newly engaged star of Modern Family and one of my red carpet favorites Sofia Vergara doesn’t disappoint. She wore a red one shoulder Donna Karan that perfectly complimented her gorgeous ring and arm candy Joe Manganiello.

Kiera Knightley (Source: Getty Images)

Kiera Knightley (Source: Getty Images)

Best supporting actress nominee Keira Knightley looks incredible in this draped purple Erdem gown. This is the perfect gown for the pregnant star, though her hair looks messy!

Julianne Marguiles (Source: Getty Images)

Julianne Marguiles (Source: Getty Images)

I might be partial to Julianne Marguiles because of Good Wife- I loved her in this blue Giambattista Valli gown with a mega-high slit. I wasn’t a fan of her hair style, but still a stunner!

Julianne Moore (Source: Getty Images)

Julianne Moore (Source: Getty Images)

Julianne Moore wore this green beaded number by Givenchy. I love the bottom of the dress, but the top looks a lot like t-shirt dresses- nothing fancy!

Rosamund Pike (Source: Getty Images)

Rosamund Pike (Source: Getty Images)

Rosamund Pike was the star to watch on the red carpet- so far her fashion choices haven’t won me over. This purple Dior Haute Couture number is shapeless and doesn’t really impress.

Reese Witherspoon (Source: Getty Images)

Reese Witherspoon (Source: Getty Images)

Reese Witherspoon looks incredible in this fitted white Giorgio Armani number with stunning Harry Winston diamonds.

Jennifer Aniston (Source: Getty Images)

Jennifer Aniston (Source: Getty Images)

Jennifer Aniston wore a vintage Galliano gown- I like the gown, but there is too much cleavage, maybe it’s the fit. Somehow short of awesome!

Lupita N'yongo (Source: Getty Images)

Lupita N’yongo (Source: Getty Images)

Lupita N’yongo tried a fashion risk with this psychedelic long sleeved Eli Saab gown. It wasn’t a stunner, but something different and fresh!

Sound off your views!

Golden Globes 2015 Fashion Fails

Amal Alamuddin (Source: Getty Images)

Amal Alamuddin (Source: Getty Images)

I was really excited to see Amal Alamuddin’s red carpet debut- all her outfits through her romance and wedding to George Clooney were absolutely spectacular so I expected her outfits to be incredible. Amal’s gown is Dior Couture- it looks great on her but the real issue is we expected more. And the gloves did not fit- they just didn’t fit- maybe she was channeling Audrey Hepburn but didn’t work. Sorry Amal- but come on, you are better than that!

Kerry Washington

Kerry Washington (Source: Getty Images)

I am a Scandal fan, more specifically, Olivia Pope fashion fan. So with this red carpet outfit designed by Mary Katrantzou, Kerry Washington has really let me down. When they first showed the top, I was excited- fitted top, interesting color- but the flare at the bottom and style is so matronly.

Guliana Rancic (Source: Getty Images)

Giuliana Rancic (Source: Getty Images)

There are so many things wrong with this picture- Giuliana Rancic what happened to you? Firstly, she has become too skinny- eat a cheeseburger woman! There is too much blonde, too much tan going on. Giuliana in this fishtail Maria Lucia Hohan gown is all wrong.

Jennifer Aniston (Source: Getty Images)

Jennifer Aniston (Source: Getty Images)

It’s a big year for Jennifer Aniston with Cake being nominated. She wore a pretty black number by Saint Laurent- the gown was just OK- it doesn’t look great on top. And the reason it made it to my fails list is the tacky $5 earrings. Come on! You are going to a red carpet event, especially one that you are nominated for- bring your A game!

Tina Fey (Source: Getty Images)

Tina Fey (Source: Getty Images)

Host for the evening Tina Fey had wardrobe changes planned, but her first outfit was a disappointment. This white/ black number by Antonio Berardi looks awkward and strange- it is on trend with the structure, but this is one of the examples of fashion victim.

Claire Danes (Source: Getty Images)

Claire Danes (Source: Getty Images)

Claire Danes is frumpy and boring in this Valentino gown.

Rosamund Pike (Source: Getty Images)

Rosamund Pike (Source: Getty Images)

Rosamund Pike chose this risque Vera Wang gown- the fitting is all wrong. I know she is proud of getting her body back 5 weeks after giving birth, but choose a better dress to flaunt!

Hit me back with your views! :-)

Golden Globes 2015- Fashion Stars…

Hi guys,

So I take the role of fashion commentator very seriously! So as the new award season starts, I have my game face on and I am ready to take charge.

Here are my favorite looks!

Amy Adams (Source Getty Images)

Amy Adams (Source Getty Images)

Golden girl and red carpet star Amy Adams was stunning in a lilac one-shoulder Versace gown-it was a risky choice- the color could wash her but she rocked it!

Jessica Chastain

Jessica Chastain (Source: Getty Images)

Jessica Chastain has always been my red carpet favorite- I love her spunk and energy! She looked stunning in this Atelier Versace gown. I loved the look on Jessica though I feel like the gown is a bit deja vu. I also didn’t like her hair style, but all in all, still a top look for the evening.

Emma Stone (Source: Getty Images)

Emma Stone (Source: Getty Images)

Another star of the red carpet is Emma Stone- she has the spunk and style to surprise us time and time again. This time around, she managed to stun everyone in a Lanvin jumpsuit with sparkles and a bow. Cute and stylish!

Naomi Watts (Source: Getty Images)

Naomi Watts (Source: Getty Images)

Naomi Watts went with the color theme and chose a yellow dress by Gucci- what makes this outfit shine in my list is the Bvlgari snake neckalace. I am absolutely obsessed with it- hubby are you listening?

Dakota Johnson (Source: Getty Images)

Dakota Johnson (Source: Getty Images)

The 50 shades of grey star Dakota Johnson looked incredible in this sparkly Chanel number. Perfect outfit for the star of the most awaited movie of 2015!

Kate Beckinsale

Kate Beckinsale (Source: Getty Images)

My red carpet favorite Kate Beckinsale didn’t disappoint- she rocked this plunging Elie Saab gown. With her hair up, she showed the world how to do red carpet right!

Emily Blunt (Source: Getty Images)

Emily Blunt (Source: Getty Images)

Emily Blunt was one of the stars in the popular white theme, sporting this sleeveless Michael Kors gown with cutouts. While she looked great in the gown, I wasn’t a fan of her hairstyle.

Kate Hudson (Source: Getty Images)

Kate Hudson (Source: Getty Images)

Another star in white- Kate Hudson took up the style and sex appeal scales. This risque Versace gown fits Kate as a glove and she looks incredible!

Jennifer Lopez (Source: Getty Images)

Jennifer Lopez (Source: Getty Images)

Jennifer Lopez looks like Jennifer Lopez- she is wearing her typical sequins and sparkles Zuhaid Murad gown, looking all leg and gorgeous.

Lupita Nyongo

Lupita N’yongo (Source: Getty Image)

Last year’s IT girl Lupita N’yongo rocked this floral Giambattista Valli gown- this outfit had mixed reactions. I actually loved her choice- she has less pressure, so she chose an outfit she loved- more power to you Lupita!

Do you guys agree? Please share your views!

Women Safety in India- My Story

I wanted to change tones today and talk about an issue that is close to my heart- women’s rights. There have been a slew of rape cases in India, and the reaction to blame the victim has my blood boiling. Women are always held to blame for being in the wrong neighborhood, having a drink, or going out without a male escort. In a country where women are routinely molested in trains and buses, have to face catcalls while walking down the street, and have to constantly face leering men in every corner, somehow we are still held responsible.

It isn’t even the outside world that is dangerous, there is an alarming number of assaults that women have to face in their homes- in the hands of uncles, cousins, and family friends. And these cases go unreported, the only trace is the impact it has on the victims. The reason this issue is so dear to my heart is I myself am a victim. I want to put my story outside to get some awareness on the issue, and share the lessons I have learnt through my experience.

I was a happy go lucky child- we had tons of cousins who were a part of our childhood. I was warm with everyone, and treated everyone as my own family. We all kids would sleep in a room, and there were some mornings where I would wake up and I felt my clothes were tampered. I didn’t realize it until I was 12 years old, I woke up and noticed that there was someone touching me. I tried pushing him away, but no matter what I did, I couldn’t get away. The next morning I was confused- this cousin was a genius, talented musician, favorite of everyone because he was polite and helpful. I was convinced this was all a mistake, a family favorite cannot make such mistakes. But the next weekend, when we all got together, he tried it again. After trying hard to fight, I ran to the bathroom and stayed there all night. I was humiliated, I cried all night- did I do anything to deserve this behavior? Am I sending some sort of signal? After a lot of soul searching, I told my cousin sister. She spoke to my parents, who were in shock. But we never spoke about it. I felt that maybe somewhere I was responsible- maybe my friendly nature was misconstrued. It left me with scars- I couldn’t sleep well at night for years, I always second guessed my behavior, it shook my confidence. After 8 years, I finally spoke to my parents- they helped me accept that I didn’t cause this, that I should stop blaming myself.

I am bringing this up because I feel as a society, we should take up these issue seriously. Every friend I have spoken to has faced similar issues and has never been able to talk about it. Some of them had long term impacts in their relationships because of the trauma. They have also gone through feelings of self blame and loss of confidence.

From my experience there are a few things address:

  • Every child should be aware of the improper touch, and should feel safe in sharing about this with family, teachers
  • Touching a child is the lowest crime- no family should tolerate such people, they need to be punished
  • There is a systemic issue in which men perceive the opposite sex- why is OK to take advantage of girls and women?
  • Men should be raised with respect for women, if they interact with classmates and sisters as equals they will stop viewing women as objects
  • There needs to be strict punishments for rapists and assaulters
  • In no way can a woman be held responsible- so what if she goes out late or has a drink? It is a society’s responsibility that every woman feel safe

It makes me sad to see the number of cases that come in the paper each day, and the hundreds of cases that go unreported. It is a travesty that the land where we worship Durga as the destroyer of evil does not protect its women. Let us all remove the shame, and have a honest discussion about this, so we can all build a safer India for women!

Why 30s will be more awesome that my 20s!

Last November I turned 30, and a lot of my friends and family asked me how I felt to turn 30. It is a milestone, and my friends got a bit depressed to say goodbye to their carefree 20s. Some joked about that the 30s are about crowfeet and wrinkles, it becomes harder to lose weight, and you go through the mid-life crisis! You wonder, are you going to hate this too?

When I spent time thinking, I realized I am actually looking forward to my 30s. Here’s why:

  • I am stronger than I thought!-  In my 20’s, my life went through a lot of changes, and I always felt I was weak. I wondered if I moved through the changes without really having any control on them. I moved to New York and I couldn’t find a job, had to go back to school before finally making it to work. But now when I look back, I realize maybe I wear my emotions on my sleeve- I cry easily, but that doesn’t mean I am not strong. Even through the tears, I applied for hundreds of jobs, even with the fear of rejection and visa issues. As I went to grad school, I fought my way to get a job on campus, applied for internships, and converted the internship to a job. You are always told tears are a sign of weakness, but I feel it is just an outlet. Once it is out of my system, I go back and fight hard and strong.
  • I am more confident- In your 20’s, you spend most of your time trying to find what your strengths and weaknesses are. You wonder how people perceive you, how you should react, etc. You want to fit in, be popular, and find your place in the world. My experiences in the 20’s, I got the chance to find what my hobbies are- art, blogging, and reading books; what I like to bring to the table- gossip and fashion news expert, wit, and open heart. At work as well, you figure out what your strengths are and work on showcasing that. I am still the person who wants everyone to like me, but I am more self assured.
  • I am working on being more centered- I used to be a pessimist through in my 20’s. But over the years, with 3 surgeries in 10 years, I moved to a new country and adjusted to my new life with my husband, and struggled to get work. I have learnt to be more calm and positive- well actually I am trying to be positive, I am definitely not pessimistic. I am blessed to have an amazing husband and family, the resources to afford the best treatment, and the spirit to endure the challenges. My 2015 new year word to live by is positive- and I got an awesome charm bracelet to help me get there (not sure if it will work, but it is worth a shot!)
My awesome Alex and Ani four clover bracelet- faith, love, luck, hope- Thanks Aishwarya <3

My awesome Alex and Ani four clover bracelet- faith, love, luck, hope- Thanks Aishwarya <3

  • I am a better friend- During my 20’s, through college and work, I look back and realize I am a friends collector. I wanted everyone to like me, but in the process, I spent the same amount of time with my best friends as I did with people I barely know. You don’t realize how that isn’t fair to people who are close to you. But sometimes life experiences are eye opening- I moved from Singapore to Bristol, then back to Singapore, and finally New York. With all the moves and changes, a lot of friends dropped and some just lost touch. When I was in New York and a bit depressed with the job situation, I realized how to separate acquaintances to friends. I now take more of an effort with my friends who stayed, I recognize how hard it is to keep a connection going across time and busy schedules.
  • I am able to enjoy my own company- Through my childhood and 20’s, I was never really alone- I was always surrounded by friends and family. I couldn’t even imagine spending a day alone. But living alone in Singapore, and moving to New York where I didn’t know anyone was an eye opener. I spent time identifying what my interests were, learnt to enjoy my own company. The foot issues also made it hard to go out and hang out with friends. While I still love being around people, I can just as easily get lost in painting or reading a book. You can become your own friend, and in some ways, that is liberating!

How do you feel? Do you feel overwhelmed as you reach 30, or are you looking forward to the next decade?

Adieu 2014, and my one word wish for 2015!

755Happy New Year my dear blog world!

As 2014 rolls to the end, I got to an introspection mood on the year that went past and what my hopes are for 2015. I saw my friends put Facebook status declaring “awesome year”, “best year”, etc. As I thought about it, I realized I cannot describe the year in one word. It had some awesome high points and some low points- almost like every year is it’s own person- there are some starts, ends, and everything in between. And by focusing on one little experience, you miss out on the entire journey.

Let’s start with the awesome’s:

  • As I enter my third decade, I am blessed to be surrounded by friends and family! I got to see my beautiful family four times this year.
  • We bought our first house and spent most of the holiday season setting it up to be exactly everything I dream about.
  • Professionally, our family had a lot of success- my husband, brother, and me all got promoted. Woo Hoo!
  • We had some awesome 60th birthday celebrations for my dad, my mother-in-law
  • I got to travel to some awesome places- Cape Cod, Turks and Caicos, Hawaii! <3

But then, the not so awesome’s:

  • I lost my grandfather- he was the light in our family- full of positivism, inspiring stories, and wit. He loved all his grand-kids so much, each one of us claim we are his favorite! :-) Whenever I am in India, he used to call me every day to hear my voice. He was the only one who pulled my cheeks every time we met, loved debating politics, and enjoyed listening for all our stories. I know birth and death are the circle of life, but there are so many things I won’t be able to share with him.
  • My random foot issue and pain rolled into 2014- I had third surgery on February and there is a long tail of recovery. We have plans of what we want to achieve each year, but I guess life is what happens when you are busy making plans. But I won’t wallow in self pity- I am strong, and I am positive- so 2015, better be good to me! :-)
  • My husband and I had tons of plans for travel, and I couldn’t hit all of my plans because of the said leg issues. Oh well, this just means I have to cover twice as much in 2015.
  • I didn’t blog as much as I wanted to!

Now for the fun part- I read this post: New Year: My One Word for 2015 and Why I Can’t Leave 2014 Behind. and I figured this is a better alternative to a resolution. Find one word to focus on for 2015-“One word that sums up who you want to be and how you want to live”. No list that makes you feel deflated in the end of the year, no pressure!

My one word is Positive- I want to live every day with positive energy- with satisfaction, joy, and optimism. It is hard to be positive- it almost takes a real effort because it is almost easier to get to a negative place. There is so much pressure at work, in our personal lives, we put pressure on ourselves to live up to our plans. And somewhere along on the way, we lose our positive outlook, and we end up wallowing in negative thoughts.

So in 2015, I will remind myself every day- in the words of Frozen “Let It Go”! Just enjoy each day as it comes, and let all the negative thoughts slip away.

Join me in finding your one word for 2015!