A weekend in Turks and Caicos

When I first heard about a friend going to Turks and Caicos, it took me a while to find it on the map- the tiny island is a hidden gem in the travel lists. I researched the island, and the pictures blew me away. I convinced my husband, and we booked a trip to get away from the cold North East.

Turks and Caicos is 37 miles long, and comprises of several islands with a population of 31,500, but Providenciales is the main island with a population of 23,800.

Most of the hotels are around the Grace Bay beach- it is a 11 km stretch of soft sand and stunning turquoise water. Grace Bay beach is voted as one of the best beaches in the world- and it isn’t hard to see why-Grace Bay beach is heaven on earth, but without being too touristy! What makes it my favorite place in the Caribbean?- there is always a cool breeze so you can stay in the beach all day!

The glorious turquoise ocean

What blew me away was the water was translucent- you can see the reefs from the flight!

Welcome to Turks- the land of clear water beaches!

Welcome to Turks- the land of clear water beaches!

The Grace Bay stretch has restaurants and bars so you don’t really need to travel for food or drinks!

Mango mojitos anyone?

Mango mojitos anyone?

Turks and Caicos are heaven for all things in the water- swimming, diving, paddle boarding, and snorkeling. The Turks and Caicos islands are bio-diversity hotspot, and the reefs are preserved as a national park where fishing is prohibited.

A bird's eye view of the fishes...

A bird’s eye view of the fishes…

There are excursion trips available, where they take you snorkeling, then for a visit to iguana island. They camouflage well, but after a lot of effort I found a couple!

A close look at an Iguana

The stunning landscape at Iguana island

The stunning landscape at Iguana island

Another part of the tour- conching! A conch is a delicacy. An honest admission of my lack of knowledge- I always thought conches were not alive!

Conch!

Conch!

And of course, another special feature- the stunning sunsets!

The gorgeous sunset!

The gorgeous sunset! (no filters)

Here are some other things you should know:

  • You don’t need a visa if you are from India! (this is a rare privilege).
  • The currency is US dollar.
  • The weather is in the 80s between December and May. June to November is hurricane season.
  • English is the spoken language.
  • You don’t really need a car to go around. There are taxis available everywhere.
  • It is one of the safety islands in the Caribbean, with the lowest crime rate.
  • Heaven on earth does come at a price- apart from seafood, most of the supplies are imported with a 30% duty, so everything is expensive- almost New York prices! It makes sense to plan ahead and shop.
  • There are a lot of options for food- but a word of caution for vegetarians- most restaurants are new to tourism, so they are not familiar with working with you to make things vegetarian. We spent a little more time figuring out which places had veggie options in the menu.

As I face my holiday blues, I sit back and dream about being back in the pristine and beautiful Turks and Caicos island!

American advertising trends!

I will be honest- I love watching tv! And more than my shows, I love commercials- I laugh with them and when they are annoying, I sometimes yell back at them. But over the years, there are a few advertisement themes you will notice regardless of the channel:

1) Fast food all day

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All day you will see advertisements with zoomed in pictures of burgers, pizzas, and pastas. Terrible for those of us trying to be on a diet- we eat salads while we see images of delicious pizza- oh the cruelty!

2) We always need a new ride

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“First in class in gas mileage”, “top safety pick”, or “symbol of luxury”- words you will be bombarded all day. The car companies, car dealerships try to grab our attention all day with new deals everyday.

3) Medicine power

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Let’s talk about the medicine commercials. This was a huge culture shock to me- in my world, doctors prescribed medicines once they figured out your condition. In the United States, pharmacy companies show us what their medicine can do and ask us to talk to the doctor to prescribe it- life in reverse!! And the commercial has 1 minute of what it can do and 4 minutes of all the side effects and they range from minor and end with coma or death. Oh wow, that really makes the case! Let me call right now!

4) Lawyers are the best salesman!

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Another culture shock was the lawyer commercials- I haven’t seen something like this in India, Singapore, or London! The lawyers make even better salesmen as they make a case about how you should file a case- accidents, medical malpractice- they cover it all. And boy their tunes are so catchy!

5) Insure everything!

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From Flo from Progressive to the talking pig and lizard in Geico, there are tons of people trying to convince you to insure everything from houses to cars to boats and motorcycles.

Share your views below!

5 things you shouldn’t say to someone going through surgery

Disclaimer: This post brings out my sarcastic side- don’t take this post too seriously!

Last year I had ankle ligament reconstruction last year (see related posts here and here). While I was recovering, I fell on crutches and hurt my knee. Long story short- I ended up having a relatively rare situation where there was a cyst in the tib fib joint which pushed on my nerve. I had nerve decompression surgery this year to fix it.

Two surgeries in two years is draining: physically and emotionally! And today is one of the days when I reflect on some of the comments I have heard when people react on my situation. I know their reaction isn’t intended to be malicious, but I think people don’t consider how their comments affect others.

Here are my list of comments you really should avoid telling people when they are recovering:

1) “Another surgery?”
Yes I know two surgeries is two years is crazy, so if you are so shocked hearing about it then imagine how it must be going through it! I used to struggle to respond to such a comment, except I just shrug and say no comment.

2) “And to think you are not even a sportsperson”
The irony is not lost on me! I recognize that this is a series of incidents and for a non sportsperson to have this is strange, but pointing it out is no comfort!

3) “Have you considered alternative schools of medicine?”
No one in their right mind would think surgeries is fun, so it is reasonable to expect that people would try every alternative before going down the surgery route.

4) “Oh it’s only your leg, it isn’t anything life threatening”
This comment just cracked me up! I am not saying it’s life threatening either but it’s such a pointless comment to make! How would you react to that? Say oh yea, no big deal!

5-a) “Oh I have read eating vitamin or turmeric can cure ligaments”.
5-b) “Or I had a cyst in kidney, I just adjusted my diet- never trust doctors- they just want money”
These comments cracked me up because it came from people I didn’t know- they heard about it through other people and they wanted to put their two cents in. If turmeric or vitamin worked, I would have tried it- similar answer as 3). No one wants a surgery! And kidney and knee are not the same- nerve pain is impossible to tolerate so not the same thing. I appreciate the concern- I really do! But I would like to get my medical advice from doctors.

Ok now that my sarcastic side is out, here is my two cents, coming from the point of view of a person receiving the comments. The person recovering is anxious, stressed out, and in pain. Instead of talking about their issues, it makes more sense to divert the conversation to happier places- makes it more entertaining for everyone!

Have you ever been in a similar situation? Share your views below!

How I met your Mother finale- my reaction!

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When you watch a show over many seasons, the finale has to cover everything in the most cohesive way- in my world, the only show that achieved that is Friends. I watched every episode of How I Met Your Mother since it aired- from the first time Ted looked at Robin, to their break up, to his almost wedding with Stella, to Marshall’s heartbreak when his dad died, all the way till Barney proposed to Robin. I even watched the over-stretched last season but the finale left me feeling awful!

SPOILER ALERT- If you haven’t watched the finale, don’t read any further. This is a rant on everything wrong with the finale!

Here is why:

  1. How I Met your mother? By the time we got to the finale, Ted dated every single woman in New York City, got his heart broken by Robin a hundred times and finally got together with the one person left! Ted was a romantic, and I expected something incredible out of the story. And he finally meets the Mom and she dies?!? We spend 208 episodes to get to the point where he finally got to meet the mother, see a 45 second montage of their life together, only to know she dies in the same episode- what a waste!! The blogs called it early on it the season, but I cannot believe the twist- so sad! We met and said goodbye to the mother- the elusive 6th member of the cast in the matter of 1 hour!
  2. More like How I got together with Robin- From the first episode, Ted fell in love with Robin, then out and then back in and then out again. So when they showed Ted finally over Robin and moving on, it showed growth and maturity. Only to find out, in 20 years he holds a blue french horn outside her window while she is at home with her many dogs.
  3. Barney and Robin get divorced- Barney and Robin’s kooky love story was sweet- they were similar, and swore off marriage but somehow decided to marry each other. The entire season was leading up to the wedding, and after they got over their cold feet and finally got married in the episode before the finale, it looked like it was for good! But the finale shattered that in 10 minutes, over work and wifi issues and I was devastated.
  4. The group disintegrating- The 9 seasons showed the gang as a tight circle of friends- sometimes co-dependent (the episodes with Kevin come to mind). They handled Ted and Robin breaking up, Lily and Marshall breaking up, and Robin and Barney breaking up. But somehow when Barney and Robin divorced, there was no sign of Robin. Not cool!
  5. No real growth for the rest- Lily and Marshall have babies, Marshall becomes a judge- no big story here. In the span of an hour, Barney is a mature married guy, then became the same old perv who hit on every girl at the bar and wrote the playbook, and then there is a hint of some transition for Barney after he has a baby, but we can’t be too sure! Their stories didn’t seem to have a strong ending.

I fell madly in love with the first season and it slowly but surely faded away, until the last season really disappointed everyone. But I while I may hate the finale, but I will miss the catch phrases, the outfits, the playbook- it is all over!

It is the end of an era, and barring the last season and the finale, it was LEGEN-(wait for it)-DARY!

… And the boring/worst dressed of Oscars 2014

After covering the best of Oscars 2014, it is only fair to cover the underwhelming and worst dressed. There weren’t any crazy out of the world dresses, just plain boring.

FROM THE BORING TO PLAIN BAD

Margot Robbie

Margot Robbie )Source: Invision)

Margot Robbie )Source: Invision)

One of the discoveries for this year, Wolf of Wall Street Margot Robbie disappointed in this goth like black gown by Saint Laurant with diamonds necklace and earrings to match her now darker hair (she used to be blonde). The make up was overdone, the hair is too dark- she needs to fire her stylist and hair and make-up team ASAP!

Julia Roberts

Julia Roberts (Source: Invision)

Julia Roberts (Source: Invision)

Julia Roberts’ return to red carpet season hasn’t been great- with the shirt gown and the pantsuit. For Oscars, the newly blonde Julia wore a black sleeveless lace gown by Givenchy. The dress was fine, but the camisole like inset makes it plain weird.

Anne Hathaway

Anne Hathaway (Source: Getty Images)

Anne Hathaway (Source: Getty Images)

Another weird black number was the one Anne Hathaway wore- designed by Gucci, it has this metallic detail. Moreover the gown wasn’t right for Oscars- probably more fit for something more casual. Not a fan!

Anna Kendrick

Anna Kendrick (Source: WireImage)

Anna Kendrick (Source: WireImage)

Third black dress that was underwhelming was Anna Kendrick’s edgy black with mesh details and a thigh high slit on J Mendel. Anna took a risk and tried something different, but it has far too much going on and wasn’t appropriate for Oscars. Fail!

Jennifer Garner

Jennifer Garner (Source: WireImage)

Jennifer Garner (Source: WireImage)

One of my favorites Jennifer Garner wore a silver beaded Oscar de la Renta gown with tiered detail. I don’t hate this look, I just have seen it too many times on the red carpet to get excited by it. Better luck next year!

Angelina Jolie

Angelina Jolie (Source: WireImage)

Angelina Jolie (Source: WireImage)

Another red carpet favorite that disappointed by choosing a relatively boring dress was Angelina Jolie. Angelina wore a metallic Elie Saab gown- the gown is great, but there have been many similar ones on the red carpet before.

Viola Davis

Viola Davis (Source: Invision)

Viola Davis (Source: Invision)

Viola Davis wore a green Escada gown- I love the color, but I am not a fan of the fabric or the fitting. I love Viola Davis, but this dress just doesn’t work for me, sorry!

 

That’s it folks! I love sharing my opinions on the award show fashion trends- thanks for reading, and please continue to share your views by commenting on the posts below…

 

Oscars Fashion 2014- Best looks!

Hi everyone!

So excited to post about the Oscars fashion. I have a small gripe before I get started- E! decided live from red carpet should stop showing the short interviews, and make it all about the views of Kelly, Guiliana and some reality TV randoms.

There were a lot of different trends on the carpet- ranging from nudes to black and white, to bright vivid colors!

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Sandra Bullock

Sandra Bullock (Source: WireImage)

One of my favorite looks of the awards was Sandra Bullock. As a Best Actress nominee, I was hoping she would wear something spectacular and blow me away. And she delivered- in this stunning strapless Alexander McQueen gown. Absolute winner!

Jennifer Lawrence

Jennifer Lawrence (Source: WireImage)

Jennifer Lawrence (Source: WireImage)

Best Supporting Actor nominee and fan favorite Jennifer Lawrence doesn’t disappoint- she stayed loyal to Dior Couture, and chose a red strapless number with a statement necklace. Flawless!

Charlize Theron

Charlize

Charlize Theron (Source: Getty Images)

This look had very different reactions, but I absolutely loved Charlize Theron’s look in this gorgeous fishtail black Christian Dior gown with invisible straps. It stood out in the red carpet as a wow look with its unusual neckline. Another stunner- the Harry Winston diamonds- can someone please get it for me, pretty please?

Lupita Nyong’o

Lupita N'yongo (Source: Invision)

Lupita N’yongo (Source: Invision)

Fashion it girl Lupita Nyong’o was the star of the red carpet season this year, stunning everyone in her debut film and fashion choices. I loved her pick for her Oscars debut, where she wore a plunging blue fairytale gown by Armani. In her interviews, Lupita said she this gown was made for her, and she chose it because it reminded her of her native Nairobi. Perfect choice- love it!

Amy Adams

Amy Adams (Source: Invision)

Amy Adams (Source: Invision)

I love Amy Adams- she is always the star of the red carpet, and she has been rocking the red carpet this award season as Best Actors nominee. When I first saw her in this strapless navy blue gown by Gucci with Tiffany jewels, I was slightly underwhelmed. It felt like she wore the gown before, and the hair and accessories were just average. But when I looked at pictures, I added her to best dressed- the fitting is simply impeccable! She looks like a movie star!

Cate Blanchett

Cate Blanchett (Source: Getty Images)

Cate Blanchett (Source: Getty Images)

Best actor nominee and favorite to win Cate Blanchett always wears unique outfits on the red carpets that keep people talking. Cate chose a nude Armani gown with silver beaded details. The gown got diverse reactions, but I loved this dress- it was different and she stood out in the sea of gowns.

Naomi Watts

Naomi Watts (Source: WireImage)

Naomi Watts (Source: WireImage)

Naomi Watts looked incredible in this gorgeous white Calvin Klien gown- this gown by itself is fine, but she made it to best dressed with this edgy Bulgari necklace.

Do you agree? Was there anyone you disagree with? Hit back with your comments. …

Filmfare 2014- Fashion round-up

It’s award season all over the globe, with my childhood favorite Filmfare Awards in India. The awards show bring up so many memories- as a chid, I used to get so excited to see song and dance performances, over the top outfits.

This year saw a lot more gowns.. Here is a rundown of the notable looks!

Deepika Padukone

Deepika Padukone

The Best Actress award winner Deepika Padukone looked absolutely incredible in this gold gown with cutouts by Gaurav Gupta. The gown highlighted her impossibly perfect figure, and the soft waves hair styling made her look like a movie star. One word- Perfection!

Priyanka Chopra

Priyanka Chopra

Priyanka Chopra looked stylish in this black strapless Alexander McQueen gown. She looked fantastic, but I felt like the gown made her look too thin.

Karishma Kapoor

Karishma Kapoor

Karishma Kapoor wore a chocolate colored saree gown by Anamika Khanna. This outfit to me is just bizarre- it took me a while to even realize that the bottom half was a saree not a skirt.

 

Prachi Desai

Prachi Desai

Prachi Desai wore a peach colored gown by Swapnil Shine with thigh high slits. Nothing wrong with teh gown, but it is just on the wrong person, I don’t think she has the body for it or the attitude to carry it off.

 

Kajol

Kajol

Kajol is wearing a one shouldered animal print gown by Nandita Mahtani. This outfit hits my worst list for many reasons. Firstly, the dress doesn’t fit her right and she has literally done nothing with her hair- on a night that your mother is getting the lifetime achievement award, she should have taken a bit more effort. Secondly, this outfit is more fit if she is auditioning for the Real Housewives of Miami- perfect for lounging by the pool. Fail!

Sophie Choudry

Sophie Choudry

Sophie looked incredible in a red strapless peplum own by BCBG Maxazria.

Dia Mirza

Dia Mirza

Dia Mirza wore a gold/black combination saree pant outfit. This is another fashion trend that baffles me- why combine too different outfits-either wear a saree or pants! It almost looks like they ran out of fabric! Not a fan!

Preity Zinta

Preity Zinta

Preity Zinta looked lovely in this a one shouldered blue Gauri and Nainika gown.

Kalki Koechlin

Kalki Koechlin

Kalki Koechlin wore a black Anarkali dress by Sabyasachi Mukerjee. The dressed suited Kalki, but it is the most repeated outfit on the red carpet. Let’s try something else for a change!

That rounds its up for me- what do you think? Do you agree?

10 notable looks from SAG Awards 2014

Hi everyone

As award season rolls on, last night was the SAG Awards 2014. I felt the gowns at SAG awards were better than Golden Globes. I hated fewer dresses, and there were a few WOW moments.

Here are the top 10 looks (some wow and some bad) from the SAG awards

Amy Adams (Source: Getty Images)

Amy Adams (Source: Getty Images)

Amy Adams was the star of the night in this blue one shouldered Antonio Berardi gown with waist detail. She looked every inch the superstar!

Lupita Nyongo (Source: Getty Images)

Lupita Nyongo (Source: Getty Images)

The new fashion darling- Lupita Nyongo has been on everyone’s fashion must-watch list. I was a bit underwhelmed with her choice with the Golden Globes, because it was so much like Gwyneth Paltrow wore at Oscars 2012. But with this bright turqoise Gucci dress, I totally get the hype about her. The highlight for me with the Fred Leighton jewelry that completely complemented the dress.

Jennifer Lawrence (Source: Getty Images)

Jennifer Lawrence (Source: Getty Images)

After the Golden Globes debacle, Jennifer Lawrence got it right in this strapless Dior gown. I am still not a fan of the pixie haircut, but she looked awesome!

Sofia Vergara (Source: Getty Images)

Sofia Vergara (Source: Getty Images)

My fashion favorite Sofia Vergara looked stunning in this silver embellished Donna Karen gown. I think the reason I am obsessed with this look is because of the diamond and emerald Victorian styled necklace by Amarpali jewels- absolutely gorgeous necklace!

Cate Blanchett (Source: Getty Images)

Cate Blanchett (Source: Getty Images)

Cate Blanchett wore a baby pink Givenchy gown- this look has me torn- while it is a toal departure from her gown to the Golden Globes and is unusual, I feel like it makes her look pregnant and heavy on top. Not sure if I love it?

Sandra Bullock (Source: Getty Images)

Sandra Bullock (Source: Getty Images)

Sandra Bullock wore an effortlessly sexy Lanvin frock with bow detail. But her hair and makeup made her look kinda old. I also wish she wore some jewelry with it- either long earrings or a necklace. Just a tad plain for my taste!

Julia Roberts (Source: Getty Images)

Julia Roberts (Source: Getty Images)

Julia Roberts wore a Valentino jumpsuit- from top down, she looked like a movie star. But the bottom half looks more like clown pants. I am just not a fan of the look! There was so much hype about her return to the red carpet, and so far she has not really brought her fashion A game.

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Kerry Washington (Source: Getty Images)

I should start this by saying I love Kerry Washington! She looked like a movie star at the Golden Globes and totally pulled of the pregnant chic look. But the look is absolutely ridiculous- Kerry wore a fuchsia blouse and midnight blue skirt- custom Gucci, and flashing her midriff. I get that the baby bump is the new sexy- but this just makes her look fat! The skirt makes her look a lot bigger than she is, the top is so blah! Just doesn’t work!

Jennifer Garner (Source: Getty Images)

Jennifer Garner (Source: Getty Images)

Jennifer Garner wore a strapless midnight blue Max Mara gown with a train- it wasn’t a wow gown, but she always knows how to bring it to the red carpet. Movie star!

Elisabeth Moss (Source: Getty Images)

Elisabeth Moss (Source: Getty Images)

Elisabeth Moss looked divine in a red strapless Michael Kors gown with black belted waist. I feel like her hair styling was a bit plain, but overall still a good look.

That rounds it up! What do you think- Do you agree with my picks?

Golden Globes 2014 Fashion Lowdown

This is the start of another exciting award season- my favorite time of the year, where I can dream about being thin, fabulous and fitting into these glamorous gowns!

The Golden Globes was a big disappointment- there weren’t many WOW looks, a lot of the gowns looked like gowns we have seen before. There were a lot of colors- from bold reds, to canary yellows…

Here are some of the best looks!

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Amy Adams (Source: Getty Images)

Winner Amy Adams looked stunning in this two toned Valentino gown with plunging neckline. I love her, she is one of the biggest stars of 2013- Amy seems to be in every movie! Go Amy!

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Cate Blanchett (Source: Getty Images)

Another winner, Blue Jasmine star Cate Blanchett wore a gorgeous black Armani Prive gown. I loved the lacy details of the gown, and the backless style really suited Cate. What I am more obsessed about is the green diamond Chopard earrings- such class!

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Julianne Marguiles (Source: Getty Images)

I am obsessed with Good Wife and Julianne Marguiles- the show gets better and better with time. But I digress- I loved Julianne Marguiles’s gown. I love the black and gold concept gown by Andrew Gn- this gown got mixed reactions, but I really loved it!

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Margot Robbie (Source: Getty Images)

The Wolf of Wall Street star Margot Robbie stunned in this V neck cream Gucci gown- it is hard color to look good in, but she really rocked the look!

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Kate Beckinsale (Source: Getty Images)

Kate Beckinsale looked stunning in this Zuhaid Murad gown- I feel like I have seen her in metallics in other award seasons, but hey if the look works then why not!

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Amber Heard (Source: Getty Images)

Sexy starlet Amber Heard rocked this navy blue Versace gown, showing the world her stunning legs. I am not a fan of the messy hair raising bouffant- too messy!

And here are some of the worst looks!

Sandra Bullock (Source: Getty Images)

Sandra Bullock (Source: Getty Images)

Gravity star and fan favorite Sandra Bullock wore a black, pink, and blue Prabal Gurung gown. The gown was all wrong- too many colors, not the right fit- it just did not work for her.

Julia Roberts (Source: Getty Images)

Julia Roberts (Source: Getty Images)

I was really looking forward to Julia Roberts’ return to award season- and her first look was a total disappointment. Her black and white Dolce and Gabbana gown looked more like a waitress outfit from the top.

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Jennifer Lawrence (Source: Getty Images)

My last award season favorite was a complete and utter disappointment in this white Dior gown. The gown looked more like a trash bag that was held together with two awkward belts. Sigh!

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Paula Patton (Source: Getty Images)

Another fashionable star that disappointed was Paula Patton- the cream gown with huge ruffle embellishments completely enveloped her sexy figure.

Kaley Cuoco (Source: Getty Images)

Kaley Cuoco (Source: Getty Images)

I love Kaley Cuoco and I love the concept of a floral gown but looking at her in this Rani Zakhem gown made me realize that floral prints almost always resemble curtains!

Zoe Saldana (Source: Getty Images)

Zoe Saldana (Source: Getty Images)

I am very torn about Zoe Saldana’s Prabal Gurung gown- I love it on top, but with the shoulder straps, detailed in the bottom, and other embellishment, there is way too much going on. Such a pity too! I watched Prabal Gurung win Project Runway- I am a huge fan!

Do you agree with my picks? Hit the comments section below with your views

Facebook and happiness

Welcome 2014!

One of my reflections as 2013 drew to a close was that I have not been writing as much this year- it was a rough year and I guess I wasn’t as inspired. So this year I vow to write more- in fact my third one in a row!

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This post is more about my observations on social media. I am not a huge party person: in the last 3 months, we went out for my birthday, Thanksgiving, Christmas and New Year with some close friends- nothing too crazy! I put a few pictures on Facebook of each event- maybe 2-3 pictures. But as I called some family and friends, somehow they were under the impression that I transformed to a social butterfly- nothing wrong with that, just that it is not true!

As I thought about that comment, I looked at my profile closely. I realized I only post about stuff that is happy- when I have a good time with my hubby or friends. The only moderately unhappy posts are about weather- I am not a fan of winter!

This year was rough, with ankle surgery and unintended consequences of ankle surgery- knee cyst that now needs to be operated. In fact in my own words, this would have been my most challenging year. But I consciously avoided posting about all my negative emotions- I have seen some of my friends do it, and it just made them sound whiny.

This made me wonder- does the control of our Facebook lives impact others?

If I think deeper on why I don’t post my negative emotions, I think it i primarily because I don’t think anyone would like or interact with it. I mean who would like to react to “I am having the worst year, I hope it will be 2014″- it sounds like I am trying to get attention, and have friends say why, what happened, etc. And if it doesn’t happen it might make me feel no one cares. It is reassuring to post a picture of you having a good time, and have 10-20 friends like it- it makes you feel better about yourself.

One of my single friends quit Facebook when she turned 30 because her feed was full of wedding and baby pictures. Though she didn’t feel she was missing out on much, watching the Facebook feed made her feel inadequate. I understand that sentiment- every time I see pictures of my friends travels, I felt a slight tinge of envy because we haven’t been able to go for the last 2 years.

There are several papers linking Facebook usage to lower self esteem. Part of the reason for the lower self esteem is because people would like to show themselves in the best light. Most of us can now use Photoshop software to cover blemishes, airbrush ourselves and show our most perfect self on our profiles. Editing out our negative emotions and showcasing our best days makes our life look perfect and almost unrealistic!

This article covers the same topic and offers a comprehensive perspective. Link: http://www.wbur.org/2013/02/20/facebook-perfection

My brother captured it in one simple line: “Facebook profile is how we want to world to see us, Google knows what we are really thinking!”

So I can’t help wondering how much does our Facebook profile really tell us about our friends?